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What To Say After “Hello“

by Ruby

Many guys read my advice on meeting women and start talking to strangers. Inevitably, they’ll email me with something like,

“This is amazing, but what do I say after I introduce myself? How do I move it to a full-blown conversation?”

First off, you don’t need a special or “exciting” line to get past small talk.

You can literally say anything. It’s just a stepping stone leading the interaction forward. The actual substance is what comes after.

One caveat: If you approach a woman during the day and are direct with your intentions (“I thought you were cute”, “I had to come meet you”), always introduce yourself or ask her name right after. If you wait she’s going to feel awkward and give an excuse for why she has to leave.

Most women have never been approached like that and it’s very powerful. You need to cut the tension early on. This shows you’re a real person, that you have nothing to hide, and makes her feel comfortable interacting with you.

So after your first words, there are 4 common ways to bridge the gap to deeper conversation.

4 Ways To Bridge The Gap To Deeper Conversation

When approaching someone new, many guys wonder what to say after the initial introduction. The key is to remember that you don’t need a special or “exciting” line to move past small talk – it’s just a stepping stone. Here are four ways to bridge the gap to a deeper conversation:

Ask a General Question:

Keep it straightforward. Ask a question and listen attentively.

Example: “What brings you to Newbury Street on this gorgeous day?” or “What are you guys celebrating tonight?”

Make an Observation:

Pay attention to details in your surroundings or about the person.

Example: “OMG, you’re blushing right now – that’s adorable!” or “You ever realize how perfect this spot is to people-watch?”

Cold Read:

Give a thoughtful guess about the person based on observations.

Example: “You’re not from around here, right?” or “You definitely go to MassArt.”

Share a Story or Anecdote:

Connect on a personal and emotional level by sharing a story.

Example: “That jacket is fresh! I was in Chicago a few months ago at this crazy punk bar…”

Remember, the goal is to be present and naturally relate to the person. Listen actively to their responses and use hooks from their conversation to move past small talk. Be genuine, experiment with your approach

Most importantly, own your words. Don’t overthink or apologize for trying to be social – confidence is key. If you focus on enjoying the interaction, you’ll naturally become more attractive.

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